When The Middle Isnt By Choice, Managing The Unknown
I did everything right. I followed every rule. And I still found myself waiting to find out if I’d lose my career. This is what that experience taught me about The Unknown and why sitting with uncertainty might be one of the hardest things we ever have to do.
June Theme: The Messy Middle
Before the sunflowers ever open up into those iconic, heavy golden blooms, young sunflowers practice something called heliotropism. Every single day, their growing stalks actively track the sun from east to west. And every single night, in total darkness, they quietly reset themselves to face east again, eagerly waiting for dawn.
The metaphor writes itself. These flowers show us that the daily, optimistic reset is exactly what the "middle" invites us to do.
The Grace of Imperfection: Moving Beyond the Pressure to be "Right"
Making a mistake is often demonized in adulthood. We’re supposed to know exactly what to do and get it “right” the first time.
But where does this expectation and pressure come from? It’s different for everyone, but for me I believe it began with school. Making a mistake in school usually resulted in a lower grade, and lower grades meant you didn’t understand or were “stupid”. That is what my inner voice was telling me.
My Boundary Lesson: Unlearning the “should”
We’re all carrying rules we didn’t choose. I used to call mine being nice. It took moving across the country to realize some of them were just getting in my way.
It’s Not That You Can’t, It’s Just That You Haven’t Yet
Change is hard — but the way you think about change might be making it harder than it needs to be. Your mindset shapes how you respond to challenges, feedback, and even other people's success. The good news? It's not fixed. Check out our post to find out which mindset you're operating from and a few practical ways to start shifting it.
Celebrating Female Bonds (and Leslie Knope)
Galentine’s Day is not as trivial as it may seem.
Milkshake or Mushroom?
We often can “logic” our way through any situation. By using logic, we are often using shame to convince ourselves to choose the “right” option (which in my work tends to be the option everyone else wants you to choose rather than what you want to choose).